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I used to believe that myself. Why do I have to choose? Why should anyone have to wear a label, to join a side, to limit themselves? I figured that sexuality was better as a "Yes, please!" rather than a this or a that.
One of the things that shocked me most was realizing that I wasn't as comfortable with not choosing as I used to be. Hell, for years I have believed strongly that no one should have to choose, that if more people would just relax and forget about labels, we'd all be a lot happier. Until it stopped making me feel happier. It is one of the most disorienting feelings, realizing that it didn't make me feel happier anymore.
And then there's the irony of caring deeply about my husband. It's enough to keep my head and heart spinning like a top. Hopefully time, personal exploration, and continued straightforward communication will help.
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Date: 2009-01-01 10:19 pm (UTC)I used to believe that myself. Why do I have to choose? Why should anyone have to wear a label, to join a side, to limit themselves? I figured that sexuality was better as a "Yes, please!" rather than a this or a that.
One of the things that shocked me most was realizing that I wasn't as comfortable with not choosing as I used to be. Hell, for years I have believed strongly that no one should have to choose, that if more people would just relax and forget about labels, we'd all be a lot happier. Until it stopped making me feel happier. It is one of the most disorienting feelings, realizing that it didn't make me feel happier anymore.
And then there's the irony of caring deeply about my husband. It's enough to keep my head and heart spinning like a top. Hopefully time, personal exploration, and continued straightforward communication will help.