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So, between Dreamwidth, LiveJournal, and Facebook, I have a grand total of three people who want cards... I'd love to send more than that. Please leave a screened comment here with your address if you would like to be added to my list!
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Here's to getting my own broadband and learning how to set up a wireless router. Posting from my bed's going to be a novelty for me for awhile. I wonder how long it'll take for the shiny to wear off...
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I've been quiet on here lately, spending more time in the immediate present. Things have been percolating for quite some time now that I've been hesitant to talk about in any public way until such time as I was ready to tell the parents. Well, when the parents were about to head home from Aidan's birthday party, it was time to tell them.
John and I have decided to separate.
Aidan knows. We keep him in the loop and include him in decision-making. We are taking his feelings, wants, and fears into account. It will be a process. My job starts the 24th, which will start me saving up money to move out on my own. Aidan is staying with John. No one is siccing high-powered lawyers at one another. At most we hope to utilize the services of a mediator. I admit to moments where I feel a sense of loss. Overwhelmingly, it feels like the right thing to do.
I wish an excellent Pride Weekend to all the Rochester folks. Anyone else going to the picnic tomorrow?
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So, I'm back to square one with my relationships. Back to
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mechanchaos and I needing to figure out whether we're working on things together or separately. I'm hoping we'll truly take the time to work on things together this go-round. I do not think we're ready to dive back into trying to date others without some hefty repair/growth first. It's all too easy to use dating as an escape, and that's not fair to anyone involved. What emotional roller-coasters the past two weeks have been! *grimace* One day at a time, I guess.rm posted a statement that resonates with me:"Some days I struggle, and that just has to be okay."
I really needed to read that today. Hopefully I can keep that in mind when I face down more challenging days.
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I've been waffling on posting about this. Part of me wants to talk the ear off of everyone who'll listen. Part of me wants to shrink in a corner and hide. But
cheshire23's post tipped the scale for me.( So... I came out to my Mom this past weekend. )
( Wherein I explain some of my confusion... )
In any case... can any of you recommend some good lesbian pornography? (I have a feeling that
mechanchaos and I would both get something out of watching it...) I keep finding crap on the intarwebs where the girls look like they can barely stomach what they're doing. I'd rather see realistic women who look like they know and enjoy what their doing.You might remember me talking about joining the Rochester Women's Community Chorus last January. This Sunday we have the opportunity to sing at the opening of the 2008 Making Strides Against Breast Cancer of Rochester New York walk. I plan on singing, and walking.
If you can, please help out our team and donate here. Thanks.
ninepointsatyr, I'm still in "Holy Crow!" mode...He has bestowed upon me a +20 Artifact of Sarah. Under promises to wear it often, and to wear it around him, he placed Sarah's leather jacket in my keeping. This is something she wore when I first knew her 11 or more years ago. This is something she personalized with her own artwork over time. I remember at least one evening it ended up around my shoulders while we were out and about. I remember it hanging on the back of the dining room chairs at my Mom's house when she was over. But, mostly, I remember her in it. In all sorts of situations, in happy times and sad, in adventures and walks to the store, in game and in life. I'm sure this jacket would be almost instantly recognizeable to so many people, perhaps hundreds. I feel as if I gain 5 renown just by putting it on.
Hell yes, I'm going to wear it. I'm going to wear it often and with deep honor and satisfaction. And I, sure as Life, am going to come back and wear it around
ninepointsatyr and others of us who loved her deeply. Looking back on it, I think I may have been too stunned to say thank you last night. I'll remedy that later on in person, but I'll say it here too. Thank you. Thank you from the deepest insides of my soul.Wow.
I would like to say an extra thanks to a bunch of the folks who were there last night.
To
amberrattus: To me you seemed like the calm in the eye of the storm. Your strength is amazing. To
ninepointsatyr: You shared freely from your book of memories, both of Sarah and your self. You set aside time to talk amid so much going on.To
laefin: You showed me, vividly, that I was not alone. I loved all the moments of, "wait, I thought I was the only one who felt that way!" I would love to figure out how many such intersections we share. :)To Pete (who I don't know if he has an lj) for a meal that reminded me that eating was worthwhile, and for his corona of playful mischief.
To Mary (who I know has an lj but I'm not sure what it is) for showing me that even a few well-chosen words can resonate with kinship.
To Petrov (who I don't know if he has an lj) for doing his utmost to keep the mood lightened.
To everyone for their hugs, their support, their companionship, and their kinship. Yeah, I'm being effusive and babbly. Bear with me.
I am so damn glad we came out here to Buffalo. Cooped up in the apartment, I kept feeling like I was going crazy: shaking, crying, pacing...
Getting to
ninepointsatyr's apartment was an intense homecoming for me. I am not alone. Each and every one of us there loved keepersrosered. I saw the same emotions I felt reflected in the faces of those around me. The hugs are priceless to me. And, over the course of the evening, ninepointsatyr surprised me by pointing out that I was smiling. And I was, a lot. The tears gradually gave way to the comfort of old camaraderie, and manic humor melted into sincere hilarity. I think I'm going to leave the details of the evening for those who were there, but I needed to say that tonight was pretty damn special to me. No, it doesn't bring her back, but it shows me that the years have not dissolved the family that grew up around her.
When
mechanchaos and I left, I kept thinking, "I love these guys," over and over again.I mean it. I want to do things better this time. I want to make more time to see folks, and to keep in touch when I can't. And, if any of you find your way over here from the Buffalo contingent would like to friend me and vice versa, just drop me a comment.
I needed this. I felt so much more myself. I found a self that I didn't realize I was missing. The grief will wax and wane. The sense of family is a blessing that I hope will endure.
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