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As far as I can tell, the party was a success. Aidan loved it. I seemed to be able to juggle socializing with friends, socializing with various family members, being a mom, being a "detail-oriented person", keeping the party moving, and coping with my anxiety about large crowds of people (especially a large crowd of people that I'm supposed to be reasonably organizing). Despite being worried about family and friends worlds colliding, I still had a lot of fun. I didn't get too overwhelmed.

Oops. This part wasn't supposed to be about me. It wasn't supposed to outline my worries and stresses leading up to the party and the catharsis of having it go well.

This was supposed to be about how excited Aidan was. It was supposed to be about the kids running around the park and the playground being -well- being kids. It was supposed to be about Aidan liking his presents and his cake. Then there was the overabundance of good food contributed to by everyone, the kids dancing to the mediocre cover band over in the gazebo, and hearing all the family members at some time complement us on what nice friends we have.

The rain held off until the party had all went our separate ways. Aidan had nothing but good things to say about his birthday.

Thank you to everyone who was able to make it to the party in person or in spirit. Thank you to everyone who wished Aidan a Happy Birthday. ***smiles***

At the party, my aunt had given me my cousin's address and phone number. As it turns out, she and her S.O. live right smack-dab in the center of where the Park Ave. festival was going on... them living on Park Ave. and all... So we gave her a call and asked if she wouldn't mind a visit from the three of us. She seemed eager for it, so we headed out at a comfortable time, found a parking spot on the North-of-Monroe bit of Averill, and wandered into the fray.

As festivals go, it was pretty standard fare: arts and crafts, partying, unhealthy food, and lots of people. It was pretty straightforward finding my cousin's house, despite the fact that the house number was rather hidden.

Aidan did his cute-shy thing for a good chunk of the time. It was a little awkward.

In all the time of us living here and them living there, we hadn't yet been in touch. I don't know my cousin M very well, aside from the fact that she was always somewhat butch and we used to have some interests in common.

When I was coming out as bisexual, she was the only family member other than my parents that I told. It disheartened me at the time that she had the same reaction that my mom did. "How do you know?!?" in that incredulity-meets-accusation tone of voice. I dropped that line of conversation there and then.

Then within the past few years, she came out to her parents, with Chris as her long-term girlfriend. What got me most wasn't that she had a girlfriend, it was that she knew I was bi and hadn't at any point reached out to talk about that extra bit of common ground.

So I don't really know how open she is about talking about the whole non-standard-sexuality thing. I'm the sort who can talk people's ears off on the subject if I'm relaxed enough and get started. I'm just itching to ask her if she knew about her own leanings before I came out to her. I wonder whether she's bi or lesbian. (The invisibility of bisexuals is another topic I could go on for hours about.) But, I don't want to bring any of that up if I don't know how she'd react to that sort of topic.

The visit was mostly about Aidan: how big he is, how much my aunt and uncle talk about him, starting kindergarten in the fall, schools, and the vague pleasantries that family members talk about when they're not certain what else to say.

They seem a lot more "normal" or "butch" in the ways that mechanchaos and I tend more towards "goth" and "femme". Sports-watching versus Vertex-dancing, beer versus soda pop. Still, I'd like to take the effort to try to get to know them better. I want to push past the "Little Moe from Buffalo" and get to know one another as adults. I've been able to do that to an extent with my aunt and uncle. I'd like to do that with them too.

It wasn't a bad visit. We stuck around for a good chunk of time. I wouldn't mind visiting again, or having them here. It's just going to take some time.

This morning we took the little stripey girl in for her spay. We got up Way Too Early, for it, but that wasn't horrid. I got to nap later on. Around 3pm I called them to ask how she was doing. They said the surgery went fine. She's been waking up fine. We've got an appointment to pick her up at 10am tomorrow. We even bought some Wegmans crunch cat treats yesterday for when she gets home. She loved them earlier on Sunday night, so we know she'll like them later too.

For over a week now, our car has been making an awful grinding sound whenever the brakes were being used. It had been making a rattling sound for longer than that. It's been missing the passenger side mirror for months, and a small fender bender had rendered the left front turn signal cracked and loose. Throw in needing an oil change and inspection and it was high time to get the car in. Within walking distance from our house is a Subaru dealer. Since it's close and that's the only place likely to carry the right kind of mirror, that's where mechanchaos took it after we dropped Epiphany off this morning.

The bad news is upwards of $700 for the lot. Most of that is brakes, rotors, the mirror assembly, and the headlight. Good news is we can split it between personal check and credit card, and the work is done within the day. We can pick up the car in the morning in time to go pick up Epiphany. I'm not looking forward to our financial state after the repairs. At all. Still, it will be nice to know that the thing will be driveable for another chunk of time.

I'd like to thank mechanchaos for taking in the car. I know it was stressful for him. It's good that it's done.

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[phoenixsong]

*sends snuggles to the little girl*

[blackfelicula.livejournal.com]

***will definitely pass along those snuggles*** And I'll be giving kitty treats galore, since she's still slender-girl. She also (unlike the boys) will be getting several days worth of a pain relief or relaxant (can't remember which, possibly both) liquid medication. That's to help keep recovery as comfortable as it can be.

Don't worry, I'll be keeping her loaded with love and kitty treats. And if she needs some alone time, I'll move a litter box and food dish into our bedroom.